Dark Secrets (being victim of abuse, or other violence) are toxic substances that spread disease throughout our bodies, brains and emotions. Even more, they overflow into our relationships and spiritual well-being for years, if not a life time. This hurt can manifest in some very significant ways such as:
So why such secrets? We all understand secrets involving our own misbehavior, and wrong doing, but WHY when we have been the victim of an offense? Why the embarrassment or shame? Turns out that, in the perspective of the “holder”, there are a good number of reasons to be silent,
So who knows? There may or may not be a hurtful secret at the bottom of all the sadness or anger or anxiety; however, what we CAN do is provide all the opportunities as possible so that disclosure and/or sharings can happen. And although we can’t force ANYTHING, we can always work to project the most nonjudgmental attitude possible which will create that SAFE ZONE, which each one of us needs. Talk LESS; listen a lot MORE. You might be surprised at what happens next.